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Today's reading: Genesis 21:25-34; Proverbs 16:23

Of all the chapters in Genesis dealing with Abraham, the final few verses of Genesis 21 are the most revealing about his people skills. They contain a valuable lesson for us about conflict resolution. In verses 24-35, Abraham confronts King Abimelech about a well that Abimelech's servants have wrongfully seized. The exchange that follows demonstrates how wise and skilled Abraham is at relating with others and resolving conflict. Here are some of the things I noticed.

  • Abraham controlled his emotions. He was calm and chose a moderate approach when he confronted Abimelech.
  • Abraham didn't beat around the bush. He was direct and got right to the point.
  • Abraham didn't point an accusing finger at Abimelech. Instead, he presented him with the facts of the wrongdoing, which allowed Abimelech to respond well.
  • Abraham was thorough in his resolution of the issue. He verbally confirmed in front of all parties that the well was his, gave the well a new name to commemorate the covenant made and made sure there was a tangible reminder of this covenant by giving sheep and oxen to Abimelech and specially setting apart seven ewes.

Confrontation isn't fun. In fact, it's downright difficult. As such, more often than not, we try to avoid it at almost any cost. But when we put our heads in the sand and try to ignore people problems, nothing gets solved, and our relationships can become weakened and damaged. That's why the exchange between Abraham and Abimelech is an important one for us to take note of. It puts before us a refreshing and excellent example of how to deal with conflict in a positive way.

How would you explain the benefits of confrontation after reading this passage? What stood out to you about the exchange between Abraham and Abimelech, and why? What's one technique from Abraham's example that you will use the next time you encounter conflict in one of your relationships? Tami

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How would you explain the benefits of confrontation after reading this passage?
This confrontation made clear who the real owner of the well was and it is Abraham. A treaty was made up which seals the deal and helps both men because in the past Abraham had lied about his wife being his daughter to Abimelech.
What stood out to you about the exchange between Abraham and Abimelech, and why?
When someone is being confronting they will sometimes deny it I am not for certain if he knew or not. Why? He said that he only learn of it now/today.

What's one technique from Abraham's example that you will use the next time you encounter conflict in one of your relationships?

Pray that my approach would be with controlled emotion.


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